I have a vague memory of a conversation I had with a mate from work earlier this year.
His nephew had just been arrested for theft after dropping out of uni, getting kicked out of home and smashing drugs on the street.
He was a good kid who got mixed up in the wrong crowd Ali
People use that phrase all the time, so I kind of nodded and let it blow over my head but recently, I read an article that made it all come back to me.
It was titled “You Are The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” and it made me reflect on the human beings that have fundamentally shaped the person I am today.
After a lot of thought, I realised that there have been some pretty toxic people in my life; people who talked about me behind my back; who put me down and who instilled doubt.
In the last couple of years I changed that by surrounding myself with people who enrich my life rather than drain it and that has made a massive difference to the way I perceive myself; to the goals I set and to the conduct I approve.
Here are a couple of the people who empower and inspire me every single day.
I’ve been dating Shaun for over two years now. I was an emotional wreck when I met him but he has well and truly patched me up. Shaun taught me not to care so much about what other people think and moving forward, it’s probably the most important lesson I will ever learn.
As a serial entrepreneur and seasoned go-getter, Shaun has shown me how to dream big and take risks and there is no way I would have started this blog without him.
I sat next to Catherine in a design class in the first year of my degree and decided that we would be great friends.
She’s one of those people with a beaming smile and a kind heart; someone whose presence lights up a fucking room and whose energy is electric!
She moved overseas for an entire year, teaching me to embrace adventure and live on the edge, something I admire and that my cautious ass really needs.
My Old Man, Mario
Ask anyone in my family and they will tell you that my dad is the hardest worker they have ever met.
He migrated to Australia from Malta with a wife and two year old daughter. He was 24 with virtually no money or possessions, starting a brand new life in a foreign country.
He began his own cabinet making business from his garage, and with it, he has built a small empire.
From him, I have learnt that nothing comes easy and that if you work hard enough, you can achieve anything.
I met Ebany at ActivePipe early last year. I thought the way she spelt her name was weird, but I’ve learnt to look past it.
Over the years, I’ve had short glimpses into her childhood and learnt that she had to witness some things no kid ever should.
The thing I love most about Ebany is how she used that experience to turn her life around and how goddamn grateful she is for everything she has.
In a world where everyone has something to complain about, her positivity is refreshing!
Energy is contagious and good things come from passionate people.
Instead of trying to be the smartest person in the room, surround yourself with people who can run circles around you; people who are exponentially better than you in a variety of ways.
These are the people who are going to challenge you and make you a better person – not just more successful, but happier, more motivated and more driven too.